chrishasaflavor asked: Describe your perfect romantic date. Also, I want a sweet question.
Perfect romantic date? Oh, goodness. The whole notion of romance is totally lost on me. Gestures that say “I will provide for you” seem more controlling than anything else, even when they’re intended to be sweet. I think this is partially because I didn’t really grow up with my parents making such gestures, partially because I have a really limited ability to tell what other people are thinking based on their expression and gestures and such, and partially because it seems kind of ridiculous for gay people to play-act all these gestures copied from straight relationships.
I guess an optimal date would include lots of delicious but cheap food, a long walk, and easy conversation. That’s not really all that particular, but I can’t visualize some whole affair with chocolate-dipped strawberries and a bathtub with candles and whatever else in any coherent manner. This puts me in an awkward situation, because I’m getting to the age where anyone with the kind of ambition and capability I find attractive probably expects the romantic sort of date just as a way of signalling earnings (or earning potential) and I am at a total loss as to how to respond to this. This effectively limits my dating potential to other low-income high-ambition types at the moment.
And sure, I’ll see what I can do about sweet questions. I think you’re asleep now, though. Hope you get better soon!
